As I grow older, I am learning that I am a lover not a fighter and I am vigilant for my happiness and peace. When someone tries to dirsupt my peace I do not and will not tolerate it. If extending peace to them doesnt work, then it is much easier for me to walk away. You cannot force someone to find their peace and happiness, and you can not give soo much of yours to them that you have nothing left.
I am much happier with making a person smile, when they love to smile, or making a person laugh that loves laughter.